The "Ask Bianca" Column

We here at Blog-zine TBNL know that sometimes a guy just can't give the right advice. Therefore, we asked our resident expert, Bianca, to weigh in on some of the more "burning" questions guys everywhere have always wanted to ask.

Don't be shy. Send Bianca an email with a question you'd like answered. She'll answer almost everything. And if she thinks it's worthy, we'll post it on here for guys everywhere to see.

And now, the answers you've been dying to read...

How do I know if the girl I'm in to, is in to me?
J.P. - San Diego, CA

The way a woman shows she is into you really hasn't changed much since the way she did in high school. This is coming from the fact you were able to pick up those signs back then, unfortunately the average teenage guy wasn't able to. A 95% chance to tell if she is into you is as follows:

-She invites you out often with her friends.
She does this because she wants to see you but is really not brave enough to go solo. Going out with her and a group is a safe guard to show she likes you, but doesn't want to throw herself at you incase you aren't interested.

-She goes out of her way to touch you.
This doesn't mean necessarily in a sexual way, but rather a playful way, a listening way or a consoling way. You may say a joke that makes her laugh followed by a slap on the arm. Maybe you didn't get that promotion you were working for, she will listen intently and rest her hand on yours.

-She can't stop bringing you into a conversation.
If a friend or coworker mentions that he heard how you throw up outside a Denny's Restaurant one night and this is a story you only told her or you tell a friend your going to a basketball game the night and they say they already knew because she had told them, she's into you.
If any of these scenarios happen to you a few times, there is a 95% chance she is into you.
If you are rejected after receiving these signs, she is the other 5%, not anyone you would want to be with.


How soon is too soon to call after a first date?
Chris H. - Minneapolis, MN

As if dating wasn't hard enough, there isn't a real time frame to call after a first date. The first call is a lot like gambling, you make that high bet only if the cards you were dealt were right, unless you feel lucky.

Knowing when to call comes down to the date itself.

If it was an OK date, you two had a good time but it wasn't spactacular, waiting two to three days is fine. If you didn't feel that dying need to speak to her again after you dropped her at the door, chances are she isn't sitting by her phone waiting for you either. However, even if the date wasn't that great, but you do want another, don't wait more than five days to call her, because by then, she has probably given up on you and moved on.

If the date went well, you two laughed and had a really good time, waiting one to two days would be fine. Even though it was a great date and you defiently want to make plans for later in the week, a day or two of breathing room and suspense is nice.

Now, if you had the best first date ever and you two couldn't keep your hands off each other, it is fine to call her the next day, maybe even the same night. Keep in mind that this has to be a really good date for you to call her that night, otherwise she may be scared off.

These are just a few guidlines you can ask yourself when deciding to call. Most of it is your own gut instinct that decides when to call, when you are most comfortable.


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